One of the reasons we can’t have nice things these days is because too many people refuse to see gray areas. You either agree with them or you’re the enemy. Moderation and compromise are not virtues to these people.
There are many people who disagree with gay marriage and gay rights who are decent, honest, and well-meaning people. They are not evil. They are just ignorant — ignorant of the harm they are causing, ignorant of what it means to be gay or lesbian. They have been misled by their religion and their leaders. I suspect that these people, like many, just haven’t yet realized that society has changed; that their views are not acceptable; that they need to re-examine what their religion is telling them. This does not come easy.
But some on the left want to demonize all of them in the same way some on the right try to demonize anyone who disagrees with their views.
I prefer to change people’s minds rather than berate them and make them into terrible enemies.
Some people, like many Tea Party leaders and Fox News commentators, are beyond hope. They are the cause of the problem, because they are the “no gray areas/refuse to compromise” variety. They deserve our scorn, especially those that should know better. They are the root of the problem.
There are many well-meaning people (including pizza parlor owners) who sincerely think they are doing the right thing by holding these prejudices. They’re wrong, of course. But harassing them, insulting them, and committing crimes against them won’t convince them.